To be single or not to be single; that is the question on every cheating guy’s mind. When you’re hitting on a hot woman at the bar or online, should you let slip that you’ve got a committed relationship at home? It’s great to find a woman who gets a thrill out of hooking up with a forbidden man, but is it worth the risk of her rejecting you?
For One Night Stands
If you’re going to hook up with this woman and then never see her again, don’t mention your girlfriend or wife. That’s just a good rule of thumb. You’re not going to need her to maintain your cover long term so it’s fine to keep her in the dark. Tonight should be about you and her finding what you want. Don’t drag in other people and you’ll be surprised how much easier it is to seduce her. Nothing matters tonight except the two of you.
For Long Term Flings
Long-term affairs are more complication than a one night stand. It’s fine to keep your hookup in the dark about your relationship. A mistress has to know what she’s getting herself into. You want her to keep the relationship secret and you want her to not call your home phone, to not stop by unexpectedly, and so on. You’re going to have to tell her why. These sorts of behaviors don’t come naturally to a relationship. If she thinks that you’re single she’s going to behave differently. She’s going to feel entitled to your time.
For a long-term fling you have to establish the pecking order right away. Even if you’re just having a no strings attached fling with this other woman, she has to know how things go. You’re not going to get attached to her, and you’re never going to be more than two people who hook up sometimes. Once you’ve made it clear that your real relationship is the most important thing to you your mistress will be less demanding. She’ll know that you’re not going to be catering to her every whim and you’ll have a much smoother affair.
“Writing single in your profile is okay if you want one night stands”
Online is less defined than real life. The best course of action is to use a website designed for cheaters to meet up. You get utmost discretion and there’s no chance that a woman you hook up with could blackmail you. She’s just as guilty. The rest of the Internet is much less defined. If you’re on a generic dating site it’s usually best not to mention that you’re cheating. This is especially true of kink sites. These sites tend to have a lot of people in open relationships, but actually going behind someone’s back is frowned on. If you’re going to be part of those communities definitely lie about it. Say that you’re single or, if you have to, say that you’re in an open relationship as well.
Generally honesty is not the best policy. If you’re trying to hook up with a woman you have better odds as a single guy than as a cheater.