“Make sure that the two women are not close friends”
Having an affair is already a tricky maneuver, but it can be even more difficult if the woman you want to have an affair with is somebody that your wife actually knows in real life. Sometimes these things happen and you have no way of avoiding it, so you need to know what to do. If you’re particularly courageous, you may actually seek out a woman that your wife knows because you want her that badly. Either way, there are certain things you need to keep in mind when you choose to have an affair with a woman that your wife knows in order to protect yourself and remain discreet.
Be Certain of Their Relationship
“Your wife’s friend will tell her about your advances right away”
If the woman you want to sleep with is your wife’s best friend from childhood, chances are that it is an extremely bad idea to try and have an affair with her. However if the woman you have your eyes on is someone that your wife is only acquaintances with, you might be more secure in your decision. You want to make sure you are absolutely certain about the relationship the two women have before you attempt to have an affair. Some women have an issue with men who cheat and your choice of mistress may attempt to tell your wife right away if the two women are particularly close. This is why it can often be risky to sleep with someone your wife knows, but be careful and cautious and you should be fine.
Keeping Boundaries Intact
If your wife knows your mistress, they’re bound to see each other now and then, and especially when you’re around. Making sure that you don’t act too obviously enamored with your mistress when you see her in person is important to maintain discretion. Establish boundaries with your mistress and let her know that you need to be subtle when you meet up in person so that your wife doesn’t notice anything strange. It can be difficult to keep your hands off of a woman you’re crazy about, but it’s sadly necessary if you want to be able to maintain your secrecy and have a successful affair without getting caught. Make sure that your mistress understands and agrees with these boundaries so that you don’t have any misunderstandings.
Knowing When to Back Off
Sometimes affairs don’t work out, and this can happen frequently if you choose to have an affair with a woman your wife knows. It can sometimes be quite risky, so knowing when to back off and cut things short is important. You also want to know how to cut things off without hurting your mistress’ feelings too much, because otherwise she may be tempted to spill the beans. Always break things off early just in case, because you would rather be safe than sorry. If your wife is questioning how much time you’re spending with your mistress, it’s usually time to let it go and move on to someone your wife doesn’t know as well.