Marriage can get old after a while. It’s a fact of life. The relationship gets stale and so does the sex. So if you’ve started thinking about hooking up with women that aren’t your spouse it’s not surprising. You’re just another guy in a long string of guys who are thinking about the same thing. Starting up an affair with a woman you’ve met online or in a bar or through friends can go one of two ways. It can end well and it can end badly. If you want it to end well, there are some things you’re going to need to keep in mind.
A Casual Date
“Casual date often leads to casual sex”
Look, if she’s willing to sleep with you even after knowing that you are married, you’re not going to have to pile on the romance. Don’t make your first time with a new woman a huge deal. Keep it low key. Adding things like candles and mood music is probably just going to remind you of your wife. If that happens, you’re going to feel guilt and awkwardness. And when that happens the mood is ruined. You want the first time you cheat on your wife to be memorable? Treat it like a casual date with a girlfriend. Pretend you’re not married. You’ll be relaxed, she’ll be relaxed, and we guarantee the sex will be just what you were hoping for.
A Romantic Date
Maybe you’re not feeling a lot of guilt over your decision to have an affair. If that’s the case, why not romance the new woman? Take her out for a night at a fancy restaurant (but try to avoid going any place where you might be seen by people that know you). If it’s what you think she’ll appreciate, do the mood music and romantic atmosphere. If you treat her right she’s going to treat you right later on. Just be careful: romance her too much and she might start to fall for you. And if you’re not interested in falling for her it can get real messy real fast.
A Night for Sex
“Go for a one night stand”
You might not be interested in anything but getting laid. If that’s the case, find yourself a woman who feels the same way. Maybe the first time is going to be the last time, and if that’s the case keep it to the basics. You want sex. So make it all about sex. No dinner date, no talking, no bonding—just you and her naked between the sheets. You don’t need to feel bad about leaving right after. And if she leaves right after, that’s all right too. You got what you wanted.
At Her Place
Where better to screw around on your wife than at the new woman’s place? There’s no risk of getting caught. Spending the night with her means you have round-the-clock access to her body. Make good use of that time. Make your first time having sex with someone that’s not your spouse all you want it to be. When you’re at her place all you need to worry about is getting what you want.